For some people it seems like the holidays and stress go together like turkey and stuffing. Between the family gatherings, gift shopping, busy work schedules and other time drains, it’s no wonder we often find ourselves exhausted and just looking for a break during the year’s final months. For families who have just finished the divorce process, this season can become even more difficult.
Children often find themselves dealing with a lot of unknowns in their first holiday season after a divorce, and this can cause them a lot of stress and unhappiness. Here are a few valuable tips for helping your children to get through this trying time and adapt to their new family circumstances.
Create New Traditions
Your children may have grown accustomed to and enjoyed their annual holiday traditions, and the thought of not getting to do them anymore can be painful. So as a parent, if possible, try to continue some of these favored traditions. If not, the holidays are also a great time to make new traditions. Find out what your kids like to do and make an effort to do that instead. It may be a great way for parents and children to discover something together that they never knew they loved.
Give Your Kids a Voice
It’s easy to lose track of the fact that your kids may be experiencing similar emotional stress during the holidays as you are. Sometimes they can feel as though they are forced to keep that stress bottled up which will only lead to them being even more unhappy. To solve this, talk to them. Give them a voice and let them express how they feel, what they want to do, and where they want to go. Do your best to accommodate these wishes if possible; they are a member of your family after all.
Create a Schedule and Stick To It
One of the biggest stresses for kids is the unknown; changing holiday traditions and the thought of spending these days with two different families can be scary for kids who have never experienced it. Working together with your ex and coming up with a schedule for the holidays is a great way to help your kids know what to expect and alleviate some of their stress. This may require some considerable flexibility on the part of both you and your ex, but putting aside your differences for the betterment of your children can make the holidays happier for everyone.
If you need assistance with your own divorce case, our San Diego divorce lawyers have the experience and skill to provide you with top-rated legal counsel. At Fair Cadora, APC, we understand the difficulty a divorce can have on your entire family, particularly during the holidays. We strive to provide each of our clients with compassionate and effective counsel to help their case come to a positive conclusion and leave them in the best possible position for the future.
Please call the firm today to schedule a consultation to discuss your options.
